Living in a Complicated Relationship

 

Living in a Complicated RelationshipIf you’re one of those people who has the FaceBook relationship status symbol that says “it’s complicated,” or you’ve ever uttered those words when your best friend asked you about your relationship, then there are certainly some things to do before you move forward. Things in life really don’t have to be that complicated.

Living in a complicated relationship will make life confusing, frustrating, and stressful. It matters not if the relationship is with a parent, child, family member, boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, customer, or pet. If it is complicated, it is definitely unstable, and no one needs to be in an unstable relationship.

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Most of the time when relationships are “complicated” it is because someone or both parties are not being clear. Lack of clarity is when people do not engage in clear communication. An example would be two college students watching a movie, then the guy walks the girl home, gives her a hug and kiss on the cheek and tells her to have a wonderful night.

She is full of stars and emotion, only to be dropped to the ground when she sees that he is walking with another girl the next day. “Hey I thought we were dating?!” I “thought” instead of “Hey we are dating,” are totally different.

Living in a Complicated Relationship

Most things in life are simple. Even if you desire to rule the world, it begins with the goal of ruling the world. There will be little tasks and steps along the way, but as long as you’ve identified the objective, it gets easier from there. As you are living in a complicated relationship, you should define or identify what is causing the relationship to be a complicated one.

For instance, let’s say you’re dating a guy, ladies, and it is complicated because he has three other children with three other baby-mothers. Keeping up with the kids, their mothers, him, and his schedule is burning you out and is becoming frustrating for you to get consistency and commitment from him. The relationship complication has been identified. You cannot get as close to him as you want because he is demanded by three kids, three baby-mothers, and all of their schedules.

Lack of clarity towards you by him will only add to the fire. This is when you need to get clarity to your complicated relationship. Communication is key. Start with a simple conversation pointing out your points of frustration or unease and encourage truthful dialogue also. Much of the reason people can’t dialogue, truthfully, is because some people can’t handle too much truth in one setting!

Living in a Complicated Relationship Can Be Crazy

Depending on the person, they may have anger issues, either at the surface (meaning they get angry quick) or it is beneath the surface (they get angry and don’t show it in public). If you’ve tried to solve the complication and it results in argument or angry shouting bouts, then change your approach before you attempt to have them change theirs.

There is only complication because two parties cannot communicate clearly. Get rid of distractions, and promise to listen and hear each other. Get to the roots of the problem and give solutions that you can both agree on and keep. If you’re relationship is complicated because you’re waiting for the lady to finalize her divorce or for the guy to finalize his divorce, these are different types of complications.

One, we have to exercise more patience and wait for a divorce to be final before we move in. I mean think about how you’d feel if someone else was waiting at the door for you to move your things out or was already in while the divorce proceeding are going on.

The Only Fun with Living in a Complicated Relationship

If you wait until things are finalized, the complication is practically all gone. Second, getting with a divorced person is a challenge because they are human and will bring bags with them. Sometimes these bags are BIG and can get loud. Know what you’re getting into and the complication is also nonexistent as well.

Living in a complicated relationship cannot be fun unless you are a thrill-seeker in relationships. If that is the case, you wouldn’t be reading this article for assistance. Just know that complicated relationships can be made simple. You just need to find out what is complicating, make it simple by identifying the problem and giving and implementing a rational solution.

Due Daniels
Author – Life’s a Game to Win
www.LifesAGametoWin.com

 

Becoming Consistent with your Business

Becoming Consistent with your Business
Becoming Consistent with your Business

The difference between the strugglers and jugglers from the movers, shakers, and bakers’ in business is summed up in one word; consistency. Becoming consistent with your business, be it a small traditional business, a MLM program, or online affiliate marketing deal; you have to learn to be consistent.

Once you’ve taken courses, and patterned out what you need to do, you have got to be extremely consistent in order to get yourself to the top three to five percent who are cashing in on all the dough.

Becoming Consistent with your Business is your Make or Break!

I was at a business marketing conference this weekend and I got to meet a lot of different people. Some of the people were making SUPER strong six figure incomes while some were just getting started. And in the conversations with the different people I really got to see where people lived at (where their mentality was). Some people have mushy attitudes and with those mushy attitudes they cannot become consistent with their business. Consistency takes discipline and that takes firmness to get up and do what you have to do everyday.

With mushy attitude there is room for doubt and doubt manifest itself in plenty of ways. One way doubt loves to show up in is in making sure you have inconsistency. Doubt with fear know that mushy attitude people will get soft at some point and take a break. They will take a day off, or a week. Mushy attitude people do not understand momentum, and becoming consistent warrants being able to ride the momentum wave.

So What are Some Great Ways to Becoming Consistent with your Business?

Nike summed it up all for us years ago; JUST DO IT. Obviously there is more to the puzzle than to tell someone to “just do it.” You need to set up a solid plan. Get a skill set or as Napoleon Hill stated it, get specialized knowledge. Get a mentor to guide you, but really they are looking from the outside in without all the emotion you have toward becoming successful and that is key.

Next, you must take massive action. You must take action and the action must be able to produce results. Buying business cards is not action; but writing an article, buying traffic, doing a video, calling a prospect, these are actions that will produce results.

Becoming Consistent with your Business
Becoming Consistent with your Business

You’re Becoming Consistent with your Business

When you take massive action, you gotta do it every day! Hey if other guys and gals are better than you, you better not let them out work you. Get exhausted over your business so that you deserve your great payout. It begins with you having the discipline to stay consistent. Becoming consistent with your business is the secret weapon.

 

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