When I was in the sixth grade, my family had just moved from Atlanta Georgia to Chicago. I was attending a new school, new environment, and had to meet and acquaint with new friends. As you know when in school at that age you’re prone to run into a few bullies.
Well I ran into three kinds who all turned into buddies of mine (how I did that is later in this article). The weird thing is that these three bullies turn buddies all had three different agendas, and three different methods to their madness.
The first one was a white guy named Tommy C., he was a mental bully. Played tricks on you that were not funny, except to him. Find deceptive ways to trick you out of money or your possessions. This is when I learned that I had to learn how to listen very well.
I had to learn to listen to what people were actually saying, if not they could walk off with my prized possessions. After a few gimmicks by Tommy, I caught on and with Jedi-type mind tricks and power; I started to block his force (haha). I really get a kick out of that because of how easy it was for Tommy to con me. Tommy was a bully that just wanted to take advantage of people.
The second bully was a black guy name Deon M., Deon was a physical bully. He was one of those one and done bullies where he just wanted to establish the relationship he was going to form with you. He would be equivalent to the friend of yours who says to you, “where did you get that silly outfit from,” and then the next day you see him or her with the exact outfit or something very similar.
This led to a big verbal disagreement, which led to a good ole fashion fist fight.
Deon would make fun of me and attempt to threaten me for my lunch or whatever. I caught onto his MO and gave him a taste of his own medicine. This led to a big verbal disagreement, which led to a good ole fashion fist fight. I actually don’t remember the details of the fight (no I didn’t get knocked out), I don’t remember who got the better of the other; but I do know we were inseparable after this altercation.
The last of the three bullies was Corey S., he was another physical bully. He wanted to conquer you if he felt you had any upper edge on him in anything. I started to emerge as a good basketball player, and this began to take the limelight from the stage he was setting up for himself. After this I noticed him threatening to make me a “gang violence” victim. I was constantly picked on by him, even in class in front of the teacher. He is the reason I really feel bad for kids who get bullied because I did not like how I felt around this guy at all.
Selling Bullies and Storytelling
With his type of bullying, I had to actually be prepared to take a butt-whooping for it to stop. That is exactly what I prepared myself to do. I told Corey S. that he needed to cut it out, and of course he gave the famous bully line, “What are you going to do about it.” I replied “do it again and find out.” I was so scared (although I didn’t show it) I would have rather seen a real ghost. He squared up to me and we began to fight. Before I could get into it my older brother was walking down the hall and hemmed up Corey faster than a Dodge Challenger can go from 0 to 60.
My brother was throwing Corey around the hallway like a bear would a human, it was like a ragdoll. Then finally Corey’s brother came down the hall and saw the madness and jumped in to save his brother. Now Corey and his brother were known in the streets, so I worried that even if my brother and I won, we would be the losers because guns and bigger thugs would be invited to the party (both of which my brother and I didn’t have). Well after my brother handles Corey’s brother a few threats were thrown out after the fight, but that was it. My brother, Corey, and Corey’s brother all became one big happy family.
I ended all the bullying because I stood up to all of them by first knowing what my consequences were going to be. I knew that if I stood up to Tommy C., he would further mentally manipulate me, or I’d lose his ‘so-called’ friendship or association. With Deon, I could get beat up and have to endure further fights, and with Corey I could really get beat up (he had stronger physical stature than Deon), and perhaps get killed (all his back up).
You do have to be wise and calculated when facing or standing up to your bully.
I’ve always had a deep feeling in me that I did not like to pick on people, cause trouble, or hassle anyone; so for someone to do it to me really burned my gears. This is why it did not take long for me to make my move against a bully. You do have to be wise and calculated when facing or standing up to your bully. But I think this story will help anyone who is facing a bully. You have to stand up to them and let them know that they will just have to remove you. You can stand up by getting the authorities involved as well (but just know the authorities will always have to be around).
The biggest bully today for most adults is life. Life comes around every month asking for rent money, lunch money, car note money, children money, clothing money, and what do people generally do with this bully? “Here you go Mr. or Mrs. Life, here’s my money, what I have to work overtime, but I haven’t seen my kids in weeks.
What I can’t take a vacation, but my back is killing me. What, I have this disease because of this, okay I will take the prescriptions to nurse it (in my softest voice possible).”
You can do like I did to my childhood bullies, you can stand up to them; you can face life and be prepared for what it is throwing you and throw back or you can keep getting bullied. You can keep missing time with your spouse, your kids, your friends and family that really matter.
You can stand up and tell life, “THAT’S IT, I’m not taking this stuff anymore.” You can tell life to zip it, an you are going to take your life back! Bullies spend time selling you fear, because they missed out on the storytelling. Don’t be bullied by life any more, take your life back right now!
p.s. share this with as many people as you can to help stop bullies and help people who are bullied get methods to get out of being bullied. Peace