Responsibility and Fault

 

Responsibility and Fault

Responsibility and Fault

Popular song or rap song came out back in the 90s, where an artist named Mystikal coined a song titled, “It Ain’t My Fault.”

We’re not going to go into the song details, but what the hook screamed is what lots of people think every day.

When something happens, people are quick to say and think it is not their fault. It ain’t my fault leads to a light level of  “it ain’t my problem,” which leads to “it ain’t my responsibility.”

In your relationships, on your jobs, in your business, and everywhere else in between, if you can get to a point of taking the responsibility, you are going to lesson the problem.

If you lessen the problem, you’ll actually offset the finger point of whose fault it really is. Even if a situation is not your fault, it may still be your responsibility.

Obviously, there is always someone or something to blame in situations, but if you practice taking responsibility, the fault won’t matter.

Of course if you want to be an entrepreneur or person who takes responsibility, feel free to contact us for ideas that will suit you best!

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Forgive and Allow Self to Be Forgiven – Day 8

 

Welcome to day 8 of the turn your life around in 30 days challenge. Today we are going to do something that will help lighten the load of our mental landscape and make moving forward much easier and better.

We are going to mend all broken or idle and scared relationships and begin the process of healing those relationships. In other words… we are going to forgive and allow ourselves to be forgiven. This is not the easiest task in the world. Some of us have people we have wronged, and we have people who have wronged us.

We have people who have “hurt us to the core” and it may be difficult to really forgive them. This actually will hold us back from enjoying more of the success that lies ahead of us. We must full heartedly forgive all people, no matter the wrong they have done to us.

This does not mean you and that person are all of the sudden best of friends… instead it simply means you have let go of the pain they caused you… you have let go of the resentment you had for them… you have forgiven yourself and them.

Perhaps you have a relationship that is sitting idle – you can go engage in it to be sure they don’t have the idea you have abandoned them. The apologies and forgiveness is to go towards all people…

  • Mother
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  • Father
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  • Sister
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  • Brother
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  • Friend
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  • Cousin

It does not matter… offer them the same apology you would anyone close to you and allow yourself to be forgiven. As long as you make the effort, it will be accepted. The key is to be sincere, and the only way to be sincere is to really come into the general understanding that no one would hurt you consciously know they were doing that. The reason is because in life… what you put out is what you get back. Therefore, no one would with clear understanding hurt you understanding that they are ultimately hurting themselves also.

So forgive and be forgiven and clean out that room of hate, vengeance, and evil in your heart and leave that room completely empty so it is not a burden to move forward.

A good tip to practice this is to do a fake Oprah show… go onto a show where you confront the person that hurt you and describe to them (imaginary them) how they hurt you and let them know you forgive them. This will help you do it with less emotion when you or if you ever get in front of them to do this.

Homework assignment: spiritually forgive… that is do it in your mind. NEXT do it physically by reaching out to those who hurt you and also reaching out to those you hurt and ask to be forgiven.

Tomorrow we’re going to dig a little deeper… in one of the greatest subjects of our physical lives!

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Living in a Complicated Relationship

 

Living in a Complicated RelationshipIf you’re one of those people who has the FaceBook relationship status symbol that says “it’s complicated,” or you’ve ever uttered those words when your best friend asked you about your relationship, then there are certainly some things to do before you move forward. Things in life really don’t have to be that complicated.

Living in a complicated relationship will make life confusing, frustrating, and stressful. It matters not if the relationship is with a parent, child, family member, boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, customer, or pet. If it is complicated, it is definitely unstable, and no one needs to be in an unstable relationship.

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Most of the time when relationships are “complicated” it is because someone or both parties are not being clear. Lack of clarity is when people do not engage in clear communication. An example would be two college students watching a movie, then the guy walks the girl home, gives her a hug and kiss on the cheek and tells her to have a wonderful night.

She is full of stars and emotion, only to be dropped to the ground when she sees that he is walking with another girl the next day. “Hey I thought we were dating?!” I “thought” instead of “Hey we are dating,” are totally different.

Living in a Complicated Relationship

Most things in life are simple. Even if you desire to rule the world, it begins with the goal of ruling the world. There will be little tasks and steps along the way, but as long as you’ve identified the objective, it gets easier from there. As you are living in a complicated relationship, you should define or identify what is causing the relationship to be a complicated one.

For instance, let’s say you’re dating a guy, ladies, and it is complicated because he has three other children with three other baby-mothers. Keeping up with the kids, their mothers, him, and his schedule is burning you out and is becoming frustrating for you to get consistency and commitment from him. The relationship complication has been identified. You cannot get as close to him as you want because he is demanded by three kids, three baby-mothers, and all of their schedules.

Lack of clarity towards you by him will only add to the fire. This is when you need to get clarity to your complicated relationship. Communication is key. Start with a simple conversation pointing out your points of frustration or unease and encourage truthful dialogue also. Much of the reason people can’t dialogue, truthfully, is because some people can’t handle too much truth in one setting!

Living in a Complicated Relationship Can Be Crazy

Depending on the person, they may have anger issues, either at the surface (meaning they get angry quick) or it is beneath the surface (they get angry and don’t show it in public). If you’ve tried to solve the complication and it results in argument or angry shouting bouts, then change your approach before you attempt to have them change theirs.

There is only complication because two parties cannot communicate clearly. Get rid of distractions, and promise to listen and hear each other. Get to the roots of the problem and give solutions that you can both agree on and keep. If you’re relationship is complicated because you’re waiting for the lady to finalize her divorce or for the guy to finalize his divorce, these are different types of complications.

One, we have to exercise more patience and wait for a divorce to be final before we move in. I mean think about how you’d feel if someone else was waiting at the door for you to move your things out or was already in while the divorce proceeding are going on.

The Only Fun with Living in a Complicated Relationship

If you wait until things are finalized, the complication is practically all gone. Second, getting with a divorced person is a challenge because they are human and will bring bags with them. Sometimes these bags are BIG and can get loud. Know what you’re getting into and the complication is also nonexistent as well.

Living in a complicated relationship cannot be fun unless you are a thrill-seeker in relationships. If that is the case, you wouldn’t be reading this article for assistance. Just know that complicated relationships can be made simple. You just need to find out what is complicating, make it simple by identifying the problem and giving and implementing a rational solution.

Due Daniels
Author – Life’s a Game to Win
www.LifesAGametoWin.com