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Many parents have the problem of not being able to control their kids at a certain point or age. Your Kids begin to look like the kids in the movies, you know the bad ones going nowhere with no direction.
Once they begin to go bad, you could become harsh and critical of them, you could be nice and buy them stuff, you could do everything within your power, but for some reason you no longer can reach them anymore. How do you stop this or how do you correct this so that you can be able to reach your children or child and stop them from themselves.
How to Stop your Kids from Going Bad
The first thing you can do is to listen to your child or your children more. Take the time to sit down and listen to them even when they are talking to other people. Listen to them, the way they talk, watch their body movement, watch the gestures that they make, listen to everything because they are saying much to you. And once they see that you are listening to them, then they know that they have a voice and that will really connect you to them much better
The second thing you can do is to spend some more time with your child or children. One of the best ways to spend time with your children of course is to not work a job and be able to be home with them, even home school them. However this is not a ready convenience for everyone so the next best thing is to make conscious efforts after work or school to sit down and have conversations with your children or child.
Plan things with them, have them help you cook dinner in a fun way, have them help you set the table clean the floor teaching teamwork, all this is letting them get closer to you and feel like an contributor to the family. Also before everyone or before they go to bed,talk with them, have another meeting with your kids to see how their day went from top to bottom and see what they want to do tomorrow.
Some Ideas of How to Stop your Kids from Going Bad
Another thing you can do is give them decision-making abilities. Here you allow them to make decisions. Give them options of what they can do, and allow them to make a decision. You can critique the decision-making and tell them where you would go or do, of course remind him or her that you have twenty years experience on them, but allowed them to start making decisions.
Last but not least, keep them away from bad people and bad kids. Most parents are not hands on in their children’s lives. Many good kids are getting eaten up by bad kids in the schools and communities. Bad kids, who come from bad parenting are destroying many of the youth in schools today. Your children go out and commune with these children and thus they bring that stuff back into your house.
You Now Know How to Stop your Kids from Going Bad
Monitor this watch it closely so that it does not corrode your entire house. You can do this by asking them where did they get something they said or learned from or what do they mean by ‘this’ and then making sure they understand your perspective on that topic. Of course you have to lay down the rules and be firm but also be understanding and rational and approachable.
Author – Life’s a Game to Win